Are you Superman in an Uber? You may be scratching your head wondering what the heck is she talking about? Now I know Uber is getting some bad press right now so you can change Uber to whatever popular ride share is in your state, as it does differ by state. But imagine it, a call comes in and Clark Kent rushes to change clothes. He quickly appears in his signature red and blue outfit, ready to fight crime. He then….wait for it….calls for an Uber!! What? He has a superpower of flying, why would he get in a ride share? Exactly, why are you going through life not knowing, understanding and using your superpower? Don’t be Superman in an Uber. There are multiple things that could be holding you back. You could know your superpower and be afraid of the potential of your strength. You could not know your superpower, not taking the time to truly learn about you. Or you could also be trying to emulate someone else, not being true to who you are. My advice is know, own, and leverage your power, it’s the way to find true success and happiness.
I see so many people, in an attempt to climb the corporate ladder or to fit into a group or company, give away their power and authenticity. Not realizing authentic leaders draw people to them. Figuring out who you are is one of the most important things you can do as a leader. As sited in an article by Leslie Brokaw, “when 75 members of Stanford Graduate School of Business Advisory Council were surveyed they almost unanimously rated self-awareness as the most important capability for leaders to develop”. Truly understanding what you do well and leveraging that is vital to your success. If you try to be someone else, it never works long term. People will see you as inauthentic and it will be difficult for you to lead and get people to truly want to follow. Knowing your strength is important in any situation. By withholding your strength you are not only hurting yourself but also others. What you bring may be just what is needed to move an idea, team or company forward. So next time you are trying to fit in by not being you, stop and picture Superman in an Uber and hopefully it will help you come back to your authentic self and you will leverage your superpower.
Here are a few things to encourage you to use your strength vs. suppressing it!
1. Authenticity – Think about where you are most comfortable and why. Is it because you can be yourself? Go ask your favorite people why you are special to them. They will most likely list a bunch of reasons they appreciate you and what you have done to help them. Everyone deserves this from you, don’t hold back your gifts!
2. Be Happy, Be You! – You can only be happy if you are being you. Being someone else is draining. Put your energy into being you, it works out in the long run. Remember, “Be Yourself. Unapologetically.” Kesha.
3. You Can Soar – I have mentioned this in prior blogs. Only by using your strength will you be able to soar to the heights you are capable of reaching.
4. Stay Humble – Trust in your abilities to use your power for good and not evil. Worrying about what other’s may think or if you will be seen in a certain way in most cases is futile. Stay humble and you will self reflect if you are ever in this position, learn and develop to be better.
Hopefully this will help you remember what you bring to the world and stay true to your strength.
Also join me on 3/24 in Washington, D.C. at a women’s empowerment workshop where I will help you Unleash Your Superpower! Please copy and paste the link below into your browser for more information.
Quendrida Whitmore is a leadership and life coach. Check out more at www.CoachQuen.com
*Clark Kent and Superman are characters owned by D.C. Comics
*Self –Awareness: A Key to Better Leadership, Leslie Brokaw, May 7, 2012. MIT Sloan Management Review